Tuesday, June 26, 2012

Summer Lake Fun!

This weekend we were invited to the lake by Kate's bestie, Brynn, and her family.  We live close to a very nice lake that I spent many/most of my summer weekends on.  To be honest with you, the thought of being out in the middle of the lake on a boat in the hot summer heat is not at all appealing to me. Been there, done that. Sorry, but I've turned into one of those shade-loving, cool-breeze seeking, if I go to the lake/beach, I prefer to be back in the air conditioning by 11 am kinda girls. And it was hot. The car said 101 when we got back to it around 4:30. Ick.  But the weather was quite nice as long as the boat was moving, and they did have portable shade.  The kids were pretty excited to be at the lake and riding on a boat. 



We went to a little beach and did some swimming. I don't think Kate had ever been in water this deep, so it took a little getting used to, but she did great. Went under (accidentally) a few times and came right up ready to swim some more. 


And Mason? Not really surprised that he's a fish.  Fearless, this boy.

 

Everyone was pooped by the end of the day.  As you see, we were able to spend most of our time in the shade. Thank goodness! It was actually not too bad in the shade. :)


These sweet girls couldn't even make it back to the marina.  After grabbing an ice cream to cool off, we were on our way home. Fun day!

Friday, June 22, 2012

In Memory of the Woz

Well, I survived. It was a really beautiful, simple ceremony. I talked and Art's family talked and there were full military honors - Taps and everything.  He would have been very proud and touched - even though he didn't want a funeral service.  I didn't cry, but my voice did begin to break up a few times. Art was a special guy. Here are the words that I shared:

"On my first day of work at DHEC 9 years ago, I found out that I would be sharing a small, 9x12, windowless office with my new boss, Art Wozniak.  I learned quickly that Art was not a man of too many words. That he actually preferred instant coffee, he always sat at the back of every meeting room, and he knew of every greasy spoon restaurant in the state of South Carolina. And over the years, I would see all of the traits that people used to describe him over the past week: he was honest and direct. Very smart, authentic and just a really good guy. 

Art was a leader - this probably stems from his military background.  Strong leaders begin to earn respect by being knowledgeable. During graduate school at the University of North Carolina at Chapel Hill, Art worked in a Biosafety Level 4 lab at the CDC.  If you don’t know what that means, think really bad stuff like smallpox or Ebola. He was a competent microbiologist, virologist, and parasitologist, and enjoyed studying vector-borne diseases. He even just recently told me that he wanted to get back in the field and trap mosquitoes again. You can always tell a true scientist in that they often view lab or field work as therapy.

He devoured books - history, management, science - and would often bring them to me to read.  I hate to admit that I rarely made it through the first few chapters, which may be why he eventually began marking the important parts for me. He was proud of his work in public health and took it very seriously, and like all of the people who stand out to me as experts, public health was not only his work, but one of his many hobbies as well. Just a few weeks ago he wrote to me in an email that he had found the grave of our lab building namesake, Dr. James A. Hayne in an old cemetary at St. John's Episcopal Church in Congaree. He sure did know a lot about Southern History for a guy from Wisconsin.

He was knowledgeable about so many things but, as one of his co-workers said so well in a letter to me this week: “He had a unique combination of common sense and expertise, and he didn’t let being really smart get in the way of his talking straight.”  And talk straight he did.  Often saying things that others were thinking, but were afraid to say. It was shocking for me at first, but after a while I came to expect it.

You always knew exactly where Art stood. And one of many things I respected him for? You knew exactly where we were going.  Art was a decision maker and a “lets get it done” type of guy.  I would rather someone make a wrong decision, than make no decision at all.  And I appreciated that I could tell him when I thought he was crazy, and he didn’t hold it against me. Once in a while, he might even listen.  And he was certainly never too proud to admit that he was wrong. But more times than not, his decisions were sound. 

And Art wasn’t all business all the time. He was a funny guy. He had this dry, and often irreverent sense of humor.  He once told a young Epidemiologist that if she misused her access to patient information that he would find her car and burn it. And would you believe that he won a DHEC Health Services talent show? He wasn’t at all crazy about participating, but he was a good sport and came up with an act that I must admit I was a little skeptical of when he described it, but it was a riot.  It involved the song “Don’t Worry, Be Happy” and a sock puppet that his talented wife Laurie made, that I believe had a behind.

Perhaps what impressed me more than his ability to make decisions and his sense of humor was how he cared for and related to others - particularly the people who worked for him. He was fair, he gave credit where it was due and was an advocate for his staff.  Whenever I covered for him when he was out of town, he would always write me an email or send a facebook message that said I was doing a nice job. He took the time to learn about me and my family and was genuinely interested. He celebrated with us some of the biggest milestones of our lives: our marriage, buying our first house, having kids. I always enjoyed his unique perspective on all of these things.

And, he went the extra mile.  This week a former employee wrote me upon hearing of his death:

“I will always remember the personal investment he made in my family, by showing up at the hospital every day while I was in ICU after giving birth to my son, when we were given no chance of survival. What a huge impact that made on me and the rest of my family.”

And that’s it. He made an impact.  Sometimes he did it just by doing the right thing and practicing the Golden Rule.  Sometimes he made an impact purposefully as a technical expert and public servant. Having watched him work for the last 9 years, I can say that in just about everything he did, Art sought to make an impact.  Not to build himself up, because that wasn’t him, but rather in an attempt to do the right thing. And he did attempt to do what he thought was right: when it was uncomfortable, when it was unpopular, and even when it got him in trouble. 

And isn’t that what we all really want when we reach the end of our lives? To have lived with integrity? To have consistently acted upon our beliefs and our values at all times?

After we shared an office for 2 years, Art became the Bureau Chief and he moved out of  “our” office. And I didn’t expect that I would be lonely, but I was.  And now, I find that I am lonely once again. Except this time I can’t call and ask for advice or tell him what outrageous thing my kids did last night or ask what he has growing in his garden this year. But as my mentor, Art left a permanent fingerprint on my professional life. As my friend, he left a permanent fingerprint on my personal life. And I can carry those with me forever."




Thursday, June 21, 2012

Some Late Night Thoughts

Typically I'm asleep at 1 am. And I will probably regret that I'm not at about lunchtime tomorrow, but for the moment, I'm downloading photos and eating Special K. You're envious of this rock-star life that I lead, aren't you?

Maybe if you don't talk to me in person or aren't on Facebook, you aren't aware that my boss/mentor/friend, Dr. Art Wozniak, passed away unexpectedly last week at the age of 64. And tomorrow I am going to be speaking at his memorial service. I think. His wife asked me to speak and, well, you just don't say no to that. I don't really have any reservations about the actual speaking, but I'm a scientist. I speak about viruses and bacteria and other nefarious wee beasties... memorial services just aren't really part of my repertoire. If I can only hold it together for the 5 or 10 min that I have planned. And then, holy cow, what to say? I also don't typically read a script - I talk from an outline - but I have this one all printed out.  I'll probably know most of it when I get up there, but just in case I start to lose it, I thought I should be prepared. I'll let you know how it goes. Just don't expect me to join any motivational speaking circuits any time soon.

Ok, what else? Kate got a new bike:


You know that you love your child an awful lot when you buy them a bike that is this hideous. But she LOVES it. She wants to sleep with it close by at night. Yeah, she might get that from Daddy.  Today I was Cinderella and she was Sleeping Beauty.

Mason continues to work on being ridiculously cute. This is most certainly some sort of evolutionary survival tactic for when he's being difficult.


It is so much easier to get a picture of him smiling at the camera.  Not like Kate at all. You guys really can't appreciate this because she is looking a the camera in most of the pictures that you see here. Rest assured that those shots document the only times she is looking. Mason? He'll cross the room when you get the camera out. Here he is looking a little camera crazed.


And he walks just about everywhere now.  Once he figured out how to take a few steps, he almost completely gave it up. A few short weeks after taking his first steps, he now can turn around, squat down and stand back up, and stand up without holding onto anything. He will be jumping from the countertops within the month.

I think I just killed the fly that landed on the computer screen. It is hard to tell because I'm sitting in the dark, but at least he didn't land in my cereal bowl. Oh yeah. Found him. One must be careful nowadays to make sure that these bugs are located. Mason will eat anything off of the floor. What!? I just looked up to see another fly and then I noticed that it was the same one as before - I must have just stunned him.

Ok, I know all of this random talk of killing flies and eating cereal is exciting, but I have a big day ahead of me tomorrow and I should probably turn in.

Sunday, June 17, 2012

Happy Father's Day, Daddy-O!

I know Don will tell you how lucky he is to have us. Bah.

Here's a tribute to a Daddy who loves his kiddos more than anything.
Who jumps in with both feet.
Who reads stories, kisses boo boos, gives hugs, and loves with all of his heart.

Thanks for being an awesome Daddy!  We're the lucky ones.


 



Monday, June 11, 2012

Monday!


Tuesday, June 05, 2012

Splash!


Splash park that is.  Kate didn't want to get her hair wet (again), but Mason? He didn't seem to mind getting soaked.




Monday, June 04, 2012

Mobile Monday

Once again I've fallen behind with blogging.  I even had grand plans regarding the title of said blog. That's on hold for now. There's lots going on around here. This Monday post will actually be 2 weeks worth of fun!

On Memorial Day weekend, we decided to head the opposite direction of all of the beach go-ers and dig around in Greenville.  Downtown Greenville is just awesome. We spent a little time at the Reedy River Park. What a beautiful greenway. Columbia should really take notes.


Kate and Daddy.



Plenty of space for a La-La-Loopsy doll picnic. I had to promise her we would come back for that.


"Mom, you are my best friend forever."  As of today, we're still best friends forever.  Along with Daddy. Mason? He's best friends with Foster because he gives yucky kisses.


Greenville has a cupcake store that is even cooler than ours (although owned by the same people) - Chocolate Moose. Kate chose a cupcake on a stick with lots of sprinkles!


Oh, and then there's Mason. Who, it turns out, gets car sick. We think.  He threw up as we arrived in Mauldin and again as he left. Which is why he isn't wearing clothes in this photo. He puked up all of the clean clothes we had.  My car, luckily doesn't smell like vomit any more (thanks Don), but he retains the nickname "vomit boy." I loved this exchange - Kate: "Mase, you frew up all over your clothes! (Mason laughs) Kate: It's not funny! It's tewwible!"


After vomiting episode number 2 (Kate: Vomit? What's Vomit?), I wedged myself in the backseat with these two for the 1.5 hr ride home. "Mommy, can we get out of here? It smells weally bad." It did. It smelled horribly bad in the back seat.


 And after a whirlwind little trip, we were home.  Home to M trying to escape the house. He can't turn the knob, but he gets the idea.


Home to this:


 

And this past weekend? Not much photo-worthy. Don cleaned out our cars. Mason bit Kate twice on the arm, and went to time out for the first time. Not because he knew what time out was, necessarily, but because I felt like I had to somehow show Kate that I was doing something about it. He bites hard.

And more cupcakes. How do you like this one? She chose the bride and groom topper. Love this girl!


And just a little teaser for the next post. Kate is pretty darn excited about her first summer adventure: